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Bridal Brigade

October 24, 2012

{This post was originally published on Going to the Chapel on January 17, 2012. I’m moving all (16, lame!) of those posts over to my regular blog, slowly but surely!}

I read a lot of blog posts on how brides went about asking their bridesmaids to be their bridesmaids. I saw a lot of cute DIY examples, where the bride put together a package asking the girl to be in the wedding, and also including all the details that the girl would need to do so. I really liked the idea of putting a package together, but I had a few issues with what I was seeing.

First, in one of the examples I saw that I really liked, the bride had made cookies to represent each of her bridesmaids — but she made them all look the same. This may work for some people who aren’t as literal as me, but I just couldn’t wrap my mind around it! The girls I wanted to stand by my side were all very different. They look different, they act different, they like different things. I didn’t want to imply that I expected them to conform to a certain way of being just for my wedding. And I’ll say as a disclaimer, I know that’s not necessarily what brides want. I personally know lots and lots of brides  that asked their bridesmaids to wear the same dress, same shoes, same jewelry and even wear their hair in the same way. I know that those brides don’t think their bridesmaids are interchangeable. But that’s how *I* felt about it. I didn’t have a cookie cutter — literally or figuratively — to fit each of my girls.

Second, I was a little concerned about putting together this big package to send each of them without asking them *first*. It seemed presumptuous, and converse to the idea of putting a package together, impersonal. Plus, what if one of them said no for whatever reason? Then I’d have wasted a lot of time and money on something that I’m sure would have been appreciated, but was ultimately unnecessary. I decided I definitely need to ask each girl if she would be in our wedding first, and then go from there.

So what did I do? I did call or meet with each of them first and ask them. And my fears were silly — they all said yes! From there, I thought that a package to introduce them all to each other would be nice. Half of them knew each other, the other half were pretty much strangers to everyone. I had two girls that lived far away, so hosting a get to know the wedding party party wasn’t going to work, at least not without some planning. Then I thought about snail-mailing a package. Our budget was tight, and it would be expensive to do so. I’m a designer, so naturally my next thought was to create something graphically that I could email to each of them. Problem solved!

I created an intro page, that said a little about what the wedding was about and why I was grateful to each of them for agreeing to be my support system during the wedding planning process:

Then, I went right into each girl’s individual page. I drew a fashion illustration style portrait of each of them, in a dress style and color that I thought was flattering and/or they would like. I scanned the illustrations, imported them into my design software, and added their names, emails, and a small tidbit about things they like. You can see each of them below, but you’ll see I changed the names and identifying details for privacy’s sake.

The last two pages were a details page, all about the things they would need to know (I was asking them to choose their own dresses and shoes) and an inspiration page, so they could see the colors I liked and the styles I was into.

It got a good response! I’m considering offering the customizable girl pages for sale in my Etsy shop — after my own wedding of course! I also included a sneak peak at our Save the Date, but I’m saving that for its own separate post here. You’ll just have to wait!

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